to the anon who sent me the ask about the dead man’s blood scene:
i had to think for a bit about what to answer as it’s evident that the scene hit you very hard. i do think that there was a carelessness in early seasons in dean that was very on the nose. i’m pretty sure that pre-series, many were the situations in which dean was put in danger because of the job. part of it was john and his dedication, to the point of obsession, to the hunting life and to find what had killed mary. dean’s loss of safety at the hand of something mysterious and dangerous triggered a natural reaction in dean: he clung to john and an idealized version of john to feel safe. in turns enhanced dean’s need to prove himself worthy of the job to john. it’s not hard for me to imagine a dean who volunteers himself to be bait or to carry on a dangerous diversion or mission.
of course this shows a carelessness with dean’s life; you don’t put a kid at 8/10 years in a highly dangerous situation like hunting without being at least a little bit careless with their life - and i say this as a protective mom for whom the idea of putting a child, any child in such a situation is horrible.
remember that dean defines himself as a blunt instrument. there’s some merit in that definition and it’s not just something that comes up because dean has self-esteem issues. he definitely has, but he’s also being taught and raised as a blunt instrument, raised as a weapon in john’s war. he’s a soldier child.
you are definitely legitimate in what you think, as dean’s childhood has been indeed thrown to the wolves. (sam’s too but in different ways.) and for a lot of the series, he’s been put and has put himself in the position of being the one who has to put aside his problems and issues to deal with someone else’s problem (be it personal like john’s or sam’s, or global like the end of the world in all its declination).
what i disagree with you is that the writers aren’t aware how horrible and damaging and wrong it is. if there’s something consistent in SPN is how obviously they show the damage of a traumatic childhood and how subsequent traumas make it worse and much more complicated and harder to address.